Your Friend’s Relationship: When to Get Out

I have a great friend who just asked me my opinion about his relationship which is starting to turn south.  I honestly have a hard time commenting about his relationship after a couple of my own had too many opinions, and I allowed them to influence my decisions.  In past relationships I have allowed other people to influence my own opinion, and negatively affect the relationship.  I have had to realize that not everyone should be allowed into my relationship and what information to restrict can be hard.

This is one of my best friends and he was asking for a bit of advice.  I asked him to give me as much information as possible so that I could make an informed decisions.  He told me all of the facts, and then I told him that I really do not have an opinion about the situation because I am not in the relationship, but if he really wants my advice I will tell him.  I really just told him about my own experiences in relationships and nothing directly about his circumstance.  I walked away feeling like I should have been more direct and honest with him, what do you think?  So I really rip into the situation or try to keep my mouth shut?  When is it too much?

When To Get Out of A Relationship

I recently ended a four-year relationship.  It has been three weeks since I broke up with her, and since then all that I have felt is anger and resentment.  I know that I should be sad but I cannot get past the time that I wasted with her.

I do not want to have another conversation with her and just want to move on, but she did not say anything in the relationship and during my breaking up with her to help justify her actions.  She did not do anything wrong, but she was the wrong person for me.  I knew it would never work when the only book she would read was Twilight.

I am at the stage to move on from the relationship, but really just want to get on the phone and yell at her.  I deleted her phone number from my phone so I could help put up blocks so that I did not do that.

The New Break Up Rules

Kansas City Scoop originally posted the new break up rules.  Let us know what you think.

As technology races ahead break up rules are changing.  My parents’ advice was to move on or go to the movies and get out of the house.  That certainly still applies, but since communication has become more complex it is getting harder and harder to separate a life, and maybe you shouldn’t?  Should you stay Facebook friends with your ex just so you can see the new pictures?  We sat down with some friends and threw around some of the new break up rules.

The New York Times featured an article about the boundaries of a break up, but we wanted some solid answers.  What about twitter? My space? The ever growing monster that is Facebook??!

1.    MySpace – Somewhere in the last two years MySpace has become the place to listen to bands and also for hook ups.  So…keeping an ex on the MySpace radar is not a good idea. Nobody wants  to read about the rebound.  Hello John Mayer…take notes!

2.    Twitter – I mean, do you really want to know what they are doing all day?  Yeah neither do we.  Just make sure to do it quietly and without being noticed don’t go on a crazy rant where you defriend them on everything, that is unless you have had too many drinks and it is three in the morning, then we say exercise your demons.

3.     Facebook – this is for the fans of masochism.  Are you really friends?  Just defriend them!  It will be painful and not as fun when you are back at work on Monday but come on!.. you can’t live in the past.  Seeing pictures of their new relationship is just creepy.

Maybe it was better when there were not ten ways to check up on someone secretly.  It was more fun when where was not Google analytics and you could trace every click.  It is important that no matter what happened with the break up, you need to take time and separate  And that is pretty hard while obsessing about their new pictures they just posted and constantly checking to see who has written on their “wall”.  Let’s be honest… you can defriend and stop everything and there will still be those online searches for the new events in that person’s life, so take as many steps as you can to separate from your ex and try to move on, it might just lead to something better.

As this was written a friend emailed and requested we posted something on their wall to make them look like they were staying busy.